Call me crazy but it’s a GREAT time to be single ladies and gents I don’t care what anybody says, it’s fun! Three months of being single and honestly I’m really happy, don’t get me wrong there are occasional moments of loneliness (I won’t lie) I’m human and the majority of my friends are in love and in healthy relationships so I’m the sore thumb at the moment.
However, tonight, I want to focus on the amazing parts of being single, we can cry over the not so great parts another day.
My favourite thing about being single is there are no distractions and I can focus solely on my goals and myself, call me selfish if you please but you have a lot more time for yourself when it’s not being consumed by someone else. I know some persons who can balance a relationship and ‘me’ time, but I still think it’s different compared to having all that time to yourself.
When I was with my ex, we were talking every day because it was a long-distance relationship so I had to compromise and try to create a schedule where he would feel like he’s getting my undivided attention and I could feel like my priorities and goals weren’t being forgotten.
It was definitely not the easiest task, I applaud the couples who are able to find a healthy balance, and whenever I do venture into dating and maybe a serious relationship I would prefer a partner who allows me to just be me and doesn’t make me feel like I have to compromise my entire being to make the relationship work and vice versa for him as well.
MORE TIME TO SELF-REFLECT
In the process of spending more time with myself, I’m unlearning, relearning, and learning new things about me that are helping me evolve. I’m spending time relearning the small things that withered within me like my risk-taking and my fearlessness traits. I’m learning to be more comfortable in my skin and body positivity while unlearning societal norms that are outdated and unbeneficial to me and who I am trying to be.
At the end of the day when I can shut the world and people in it out, I can’t do that with myself, I have to live with me, hear my thoughts and figure out my labyrinth (beautiful) mind. Therefore, I want to create a healthy and safe place for myself, being single is helping me do this.
IT’S JUST A DAMN GOOD FEELING
I can’t explain it but it’s a liberating feeling being single as a pringle, some persons might disagree and that’s okay because everyone is entitled to their own opinion. For a while, I thought a relationship defined me in some way and that being in one made me less lonely, incomplete, or broken; I WAS WRONG! I’m whole on my own and for anyone who’s currently single you are too, relish in that moment until YOU are ready to change it and welcome someone else into the equation.
Until then, keep living your best life! Thanks for reading 💕