A man doesn’t have to compare me to a summer’s day like Shakespeare did in 1609 but love letters, poetry, romantic dates and sweet gestures appeal to my inner hopeless romantic.
I’ve been this way since a classmate introduced me to the world of Mills & Boon and Harlequin in grade 7 (huge shout out to Rolvanna, thank you!) I’ve been hooked ever since. Soon I went from reading romance novels to watching romance films; my favourite films are from the 80’s, 90’s and early 2000’s. If you name a popular romance movie, I’m sure I’ve watched it! Now you can call me a lunatic or a fool but I embrace being a hopeless romantic.
A hopeless romantic has a larger heart than others, being more prone to a broken heart then the regular person. They are in love with the idea of being loved and loving back. They are NOT made for today’s standards, as they believe in the little things about true love, fairy tales, and chivalry, and truly believe that there is only one person out there for them. They get attached quickly, but they are genuinely the best boy/girl friend you could have. They are loving, caring people who give their 100%, expecting full return.Elizabethh Roosee – Urban Dictionary (the definition is accurate except I have a selective attachment mentality)
I believe in falling in love, soul mates and all the things that might make some people barf. I’ll surprise you by saying I don’t believe in happy endings because ‘boy meets girl, they fall in love, hit a rough patch then fix it and regain that happiness again’ is only a book or movie ending. In the real world relationships, marriages and even situationships require a lot more effort to keep afloat and I’m not naïve to that fact.
Now dating as a hopeless romantic as yield a lot of disappointment for me yet here I am still a firm believer in love and that somewhere out there in this great big world there is a man who has been created and designed specifically for me and I for him, unbelievable right?
Yet, I believe it though, maybe that belief system will wither and die if the years progress and we (him and I) never find each other then I’ll probably spend my older years singing ‘I’m single by choice’ just to make myself feel better or we’ll meet each other and tackle the good and the bad one day at a time.
I’m tired of settling for less when I know I deserve more. I’m not asking for too much, I think I’m just asking the wrong person. I’m also tired of hearing that smart girls like me will flourish in education and a career but will be unlucky in love, why?
I want to share my most intimate parts, life achievements, disappointments and curveballs with someone who is my equal and vice versa. I want to have it all: family and friends, a good career, a couple degrees and a partner with a good character. Am I foolish for thinking this way? I don’t think so