Maybe a Relationship Isn’t for Me

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I’m single again, technically I’ve been single for almost 4 months now, but I’ve been trying to process and unpack a lot of things privately before attempting to write about it on my blog. Like I’ve always said I know I’m truly healed from an experience when I’m able to talk about it and well I feel healed and ready to write.

I have finally accepted that I have too many broken relationships with men, in some situations they or I lacked the ability to effectively communicate with each other (we weren’t properly speaking or listening to each other), in others we just weren’t compatible sexually, emotionally or even mentally enough to last the test of time. Shit happens, things fall apart but it’s all for a reason.

I won’t play the blame game because I don’t think I’ll gain anything from being right and assigning the villain role to my exes, instead I focus on holding myself accountable and figuring out, how do I move forward and learn from this experience.

At this particular moment in time, I don’t want to date or be in a relationship.

Girl In Her Twenties

I don’t hate men, nor am I oppose to being in a relationship or forming an intimate connection with someone, but it isn’t a priority for me. I was trying to manifest love 2 months after my break-up, but I realize I don’t want it at this moment in time for many reasons. My life right now is centered around further discovering more of myself, spending time with my mom (we’ve finally mended our relationship and we are in a good place), spending time with my close friends (I want to have more quality time with them, being in a relationship takes away from this) and I truly want to focus on a career and residing where the money resides.

If I happen to find love, then that’s good but I won’t be going out of my way to find it at this moment in time.

No relationships, no situationships but maybe a summer sneaky link, somebody play Girls Need Love Remix by Summer Walker for me please.

Girl In Her Twenties

A few options have presented themselves, one of those options align with the mindset I’m currently in and if it does happen then I’ll definitely be writing about it, even if it’s a bad experience.

If you aren’t in a relationship right now, don’t feel bad about it and don’t feel as if you need to be in one. A relationship doesn’t define you and yes, I know companionship is wonderful, it fills voids that solitude can’t and offers feelings and comfort that being single doesn’t provide but it’s not the end of the world if you aren’t in a relationship. THE RIGHT CONNECTION & VIBE WILL FIND YOU WHEN IT’S TIME SO BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF AND LOVE WHAT YOU HAVE GOING ON WITH YOU UNTIL THAT PERSON FINDS YOU.

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